· A few things about me first. I'm 45, have been divorced for 12 years and have no kids (I have a cat I adore I'm a teacher, I have a few close friends (most of them married with · A few years back, I posted a journal of my online dating experiences: A couple of relationships later, I was finally dumped in November and tried to get her back in March: That · I thought I would give a go at this journaling thing. My friends do not partake in online dating and I don't really get feedback from anyone that does. Mostly my friends shake Post your advice request and tell us what brings you to eNotAlone today. August 2 in Online Dating. 16 replies; views; Updated 47 minutes ago; MainMichaela; 47 minutes ago; By · Or sign in with one of these services. Sign in with Facebook. Sign in with Google ... read more
Only 10 texts in and I'm already annoyed He brought up massages THREE times already. I'm done, mister Green is nixed. TwixSense Posted February 2, Posted February 2, Red just let me know that he's available on Wednesday. But I'm not, so I tell him. Now I have a bad feeling, so I doubt much will come out of this one too. That only leaves Blue which I will probably end up cutting off in a month or so as well. WithLove Posted February 2, I am practicing patience and it's hard work..
So I asked if he wanted my schedule instead and he said "let me take a look" So I sent it and he said it might have to be Saturday because of the time he gets off of work When someone says "maybe xyz" I don't consider it concrete, so I'll have to ask if definitely Saturday at some point.. TwixSense Posted February 3, Posted February 3, Red texted early this morning about the weather, and I replied similarly..
I didn't ask him if Saturday is definite yet because : 1 I get the feeling he suggested it to be nice but wants to do something else that day I could be completely wrong And 2 I am trying to sloow down, and practice patience.
TwixSense Posted February 4, Posted February 4, Saturday is a go, yay!! TwixSense Posted February 7, Posted February 7, New guy I'll call him Purple But I'm still interested in getting to know you" So, Purple is in for now. Oh, and he isn't very health-conscious. Blegh Oh, my ex left a drunken voicemail last night. Yippee Oh, and my ex from 2 or 3years keeps texting me, smh. Red wants to get serious Idk about that just yet. WithLove Posted February 8, Posted February 8, You haven't yet met Red, right?
Keeps rescheduling or something? TwixSense Posted February 8, Blue is the one who keeps rescheduling, Red is the one I've had the most contact with. faraday Posted February 8, Have you met red yet though? Like, in person? Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk. I don't understand waiting weeks to meet someone. Why are you taking so long to meet them? Its the other guys that I haven't met yet. And also I'm hesitant to meet guys so fast because I still get nervous and anxious lol.
Also my schedule is pretty full already. Do you know what will make you less anxious? Not investing as much. But practise does make us better Good luck Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk. TwixSense Posted February 9, Posted February 9, And I deleted my account on OKC. faraday Posted February 10, Posted February 10, I just cut out the guys that completely repulsed me and tried to meet everyone else. My bf is my complete opposite not someone I would typically go for but it works.
TwixSense Posted February 12, Posted February 12, So Red asked me to be his girlfriend yesterday and I accepted. Now to see how all of this goes. faraday Posted February 13, Posted February 13, Archived This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.
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I wish things were different. but it is what it is. To keep my sanity during that time I continued to date others not intimately and the pace was wearing on me and creating all sorts of unneeded anxiety. During the holidays I pulled my profile but continued to communicate with one person who's schedule is opposite of mine for the time being so meeting was a challenge. During my time off during the holidays we met for breakfast and as much as I really didn't want to go, I was pleasantly surprised.
Now 3 dates later my current challenge is to see if this man can open up and let me in. Apparently I make him very nervous and at times he shuts down. I tried dating someone like him sometime ago and I thought in time he might let me in. After several weeks I realized it was never going to happen. What I do like about my new friend is that he has some old school values much like mine, maybe a little more conservative.
He noticed I pulled my profile only for a break and pulled his as well saying he typically only dates on person at a time to see where it goes. It's nice to not have to interpret someone's intentions and refreshing to know I am not part of someone rotation. I have met so many men who don't know how to date. funny as that sounds, but true. I am enjoying this. He is showing me that he does have sense of humor and enjoys giving me a hard time playfully I am optimistic that there is someone that I am able to connect with behind the shyness.
He has assured me that he is typically not this way and has promised to open up. I still have another friend I will see tonight. T and I have been dating for about 3 months now and as much as I like and I am attracted to him I just don't think we are relationship material. He's gone most weekends to see his son 8 hours away. He's so sweet and endearing but not very active, pretty much a couch kinda guy, very Christian and not much of a social drinker. my social circle is! He has a very naïve almost immature quality to him but I feel safe and cared for with him.
I often wish I could see him as someone more than a friend but that certain quality is lacking. I don't see him often and have opted out a couple times lately, but I am looking forward to catching up tonight. I see my shy friend this weekend. M has invited me for a day trip to the local mountains and I am looking forward to it. reinventmyself 1, posts. WithLove posts.
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Same to Rose. Happy Holidays. I spent the evening with T last night. I've known him for over 3 mos now. He's transferred here from up north and rents a room and I don't doubt for a minute he would go home given the opportunity. He communicates inconsistently or at least not consistent enough to consider him potentially romantic. He is somewhat non assertive and I get the sense he is waiting for me to give the green light for something more. I often wonder about his ex wife up north who lends him her only car while he's there and he takes her to and from work during his stay at his own place don't want to be naïve.
She also shares her dating escapades with him so they appear amicable or more? he doesn't appear to have a lot of respect for how she handles her life.
She was really miffed over the holidays when he worked overtime. apparently it ruined her dating plans. at least for the most part so I leave it alone. He wants to go away for the weekend later this month but that would cross over into something intimate and therefore I would have to have some clarity about some things and I would.
For the most part we seem to be just friends. that date. Besides my last two attempts at getting clarification about intentions didn't go well. Or I didn't hear what I wanted to I guess is a better way to describe it. At this point I am not asking a man what his intentions are, instead I will wait until they ask me. so there! but I have dated men I have been attracted to but because we had different interests and lifestyle obstacles I ended it.
I don't know, the ex-wife thing is a bit too close for comfort to me. I mean, he takes the time to go visit his son, which is very admirable, but driving the ex to work, sharing the car, her getting angry over his overtime and that it affected HER dating plans? something doesn't seem right to me. But that's just my opinion. I just find it amazing how you've been dating for 3 months and nothing is clear yet.
I've never been able to do that! He's the shy one who is promising to open up. He is definitely a better match for me as for as interests and lifestyle. He just proposed turning our day trip to the mountains Saturday as overnight with separate bedrooms. Funny my friend says the same thing but the mere fact that I am not seeking clarification says a lot about my intentions.
M sounds nice, and the fact that he wanted to spend more time with you with separate bedrooms is nice, too. Make sure you lock it! About T, I just wanted to add that a year ago when I first became single, I met a nice guy online, I wasn't attracted to him and didn't think he was LTR potential for me, but we got along really well and we "dated" for 2. It was fun and I also consider him a friend more so than a date.
He never made a move either so I assumed he wasn't interested in dating me either. I never had the urge to clarify things so to speak since I wasn't interested in anything more than good company. All of this is to say I can understand why you do it for as long as you have haha But I guess if you do even subconsciously want more with him, maybe it's time to make a decision.
T came into my life when I was wrestling with G. the one I really liked, but didn't want a relationship and I was being intimate with G I think I kept T in the picture as a means to not get anymore attached to G than I was.
didn't work. If I sensed his discomfort or the thought he was expecting more, I may feel differently. He's not easy to read and as I mentioned earlier I haven't asked. The proposed weekend trip has got me wondering though. Nothing is firm and he's looking into his timeshares. I didn't respond either. I don't need to do anything today. so this will wait until I have alittle more clarity. just to make things a little more complicated. I met someone during a break from the now exbf a little more than a year ago.
He has since relocated to the San Francisco area and I happen to travel there occasionally for work. When I do go there I have dinner with him and he's no more than a friend and he has often asked to come and visit my area. So Cal. My last visit 7 wks ago he again mentioned visiting. We also have opposite schedules so talking on the phone is close to impossible and every so often I get a text.
He's a nice man and if the situation was different we may actually be a good fit. I was wondering if he was still going to keep his word and come down in January like we spoke but as the time began to draw near I have serious reservations due to our lack of contact and feeling that with no more communication than texting we are basically strangers again.
in keeping with my pattern of not clarifying things I am avoiding dealing with If my memory serves me well he was expected this coming weekend. I was a little relieved as it was drawing nearer that it wasn't going to happen. Until last night, I get a text! For a first date, I agree. The first time I asked her out, it was at the end of a 45 minute phone call. But after we'd just spent SIX STRAIGHT HOURS talking to each other in person the night before, I don't think texting for a 3rd date is bad form at all, and past relationships have borne this out.
Some people actually prefer texting once you've gotten to know each other in person; no problem with that. But to clarify, on Thursday I gave her options for all three days of the weekend because she said she might meet with a girlfriend on Sat or Sun.
We went out Friday and that night she asked if I would contact her over the weekend. So the next evening I texted about doing something on Sunday night. She replied that once she heard from her friend, she'd text me Sunday afternoon. So if you went on a really nice 6-hour 2nd date with a guy and mentioned you'd like him to contact you over the weekend, and he texted you the next afternoon asking for a date the next night, you'd assume that a he has bad dating form, and b he's talking to multiple women?
That seems like a lot of assumptions to make from a text vs. a call. Most guys dating multiple women would allow a week to pass before a 2nd date, not schedule three of them in the space of five days! If anything, I'm probably coming accross as too eager to date just her alone.
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All Activity Home Clubs Journals Journals Online Dating for the 2nd Time - A Journal. Journals Open Club · 71 members · Free. Overview Members Journals Private Journals. Online Dating for the 2nd Time - A Journal online relationship getting back with ex dating friend. Recommended Posts. NorthDallas40 Posted March 26, Posted March 26, A few years back, I posted a journal of my online dating experiences: A couple of relationships later, I was finally dumped in November and tried to get her back in March: That didn't work, so I went through some self-examination: Now I'm back in the singles game Back in December , I sent out about 50 messages on OKC which yielded 5 dates: JINA 29 - We went out twice, held hands on 2nd date, got along well but no real sparks.
We talked on the phone for 45 minutes this past Friday and have a date tomorrow Tuesday RAQUEL 38 - Graphic Designer. At least I'm keeping busy this week. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options Replies 7. Nightdriver Posted March 26, do you pay the full boat on each of these dates? Of course! I'm the man, I'm asking them out, it's the right thing to do.
NorthDallas40 Posted March 27, Posted March 27, Well when it rains, it pours. So I've got 4 dates for the next 4 days Date 1 with Raquel is tonight. Nightdriver Posted March 27, NorthDallas40 Posted March 28, Posted March 28, NorthDallas40 Posted March 29, Posted March 29, Ms Darcy Posted March 29, Hey, no one can accuse you of not working hard for a date!
Especially when I'm writing long-winded wrapups here on ENA But for me it's worth it. bebeblondie Posted March 29, JEANETTE just messaged me, saying she'd love to go out tonight. ELLE who? Gotta say that's one advantage to dating women closer to my age: they know what they want and they don't waste time in letting you know!
Zuri Posted March 29, This thread is awesome. Ms Darcy Posted March 30, Posted March 30, See guys women do respond to online dating messages! Go NorthDallas. NorthDallas40 Posted March 30, Date 2 with JEANETTE went really well with a bit of a hiccup IMO at the end. But while we were sitting in my car when I dropped her back home, it got a bit confusing.
But she adamantly didn't kiss back, gave me her cheek, and just kept smiling. bebeblondie Posted March 31, Posted March 31, NorthDallas40 Posted March 31, And I just messaged 20 more women on OKC.
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Open Club · 71 members · Free. By missmarple , November 16, in Journals. Greg, it was nice meeting you on the site and I enjoyed our chats but, obviously, you're too busy to meet new people..
or, at least, to meet me. I don't get it - what was wrong with Greg? I can't find the conversation you had with him yesterday. Did you ask to see him? Missmarple -just so you understand that I had high standards I'll share an example from 8 years ago.
I emailed through a dating site with A, who was on paper a great match for me and our phone call was great too. We probably had our phone call on a Friday or over a weekend. I would have made a plan to meet right then but he was the one who wanted to get back to me for whatever reason. He did not get in touch with me until the following Wednesday - I believe it was by email -with no acknowledgement -much less an apology -about not getting in touch Monday -I replied to his email that I was no longer interested in meeting because he hadn't gotten in touch when he said he would.
He was VERY surprised - it was obvious that he thought he was such a great catch that I wouldn't even notice. And I'm sure many other women would let it slide so he had learned that he didn't need to be that reliable. That was only one example of many. It's all about balance but I try to remind myself "it's better to be close than to be right". That usually applies more to close relationships but I think it applies here too.
There's a benefit to that approach too. Before my husband and I were officially together we got to know each other again over a 3-week period - we saw each other 3 times - but between times there was one 7-day stretch where I didn't hear from him and I was sad about that but our get togethers were platonic at that point - and worried. I held tight, I contacted him once or twice by email and it turned out there was a good reason why he hadn't been in touch.
The next time I saw him - a week later- he asked if we could get back together -after that we were in touch daily - usually he called for practical reasons but there was no waiting or wondering - because we both participated.
If I had written him off for that 7-day period I wouldn't have my incredible family or my oh-so-much-easier-to-pronounce-and-spell married name, among other things. Not only was he interested -he wanted to make me his ASAP because he could sense that I was probably dating other people and he was right.
I REALLY don't think I'm strident. Maybe it looks that way in the posts here, I don't know. I consider myself a fairly easygoing person. The things I'm looking for in a partner are few. I'm looking for someone I'm attracted to, who has a job and treats me nicely.
With these 2 guys, in particular Tony and Keith I did something I usually don't do. I texted them both after the date. In Tony's case I even wrote back after his reply made a joke but he never answered I don't think I had mentioned this.
Then new year comes and nothing. Now it's 5 days after the date and still nothing. The same things, more or less, go for Keith, too but much worse. When a person makes it a point to tell you that he feels lonely, he doesn't have many friends, his family is so far away, the only thing he has planned for new year's eve is to have a drink at a friend's bar and then he won't even text or call you in 4 days it is disappointing.
However, just out of curiosity, I'll text them both happy new year. I don't expect anything to come out of this but, since both you and annie insist so much, I'll give them the benefit of the doubt.. and report back. I understand -we're really not that far apart you know. It will be interesting to see what the response is to your texts -nothing to lose. Well, Greg did ask you out Personally, I hate IMing because to me, it's a bit like knocking on someone's door and barging in.
It sounds like he was busy, with what, I don't know. Some people run a home business or work online a lot and while they might be online, they might not be free to talk. In that case, they should put their "busy" light on, or whatever. He did ask you out, so I think you jumped the gun telling him off because he didn't get back to you with a time quickly enough.
I think you need to stop being so defensive, I know you say you haven't been hurt, but your actions make it appear like you have and that you're actively trying to avoid a relationship. My 2 cents I could be wrong of course annie, he doesn't work from home.
He doesn't work online. He kept me waiting without as much as a brb. He still kept me waiting after I told him what time I'm free.
He never said 'look, I'll get to you later'. He had all the opportunities to say yes, let's meet at so and so time and he didn't. He could call me if he wanted to. Email me.
He did nothing. The reason I deleted him today and not yesterday was because I wanted to give him one more chance. If I was busy and, at the same time, tried to arrange a date with someone I was interested in, I would tell them 'sorry, hold on' and if they left, I would call them and apologise.
I've no idea when basic manners became something that we shouldn't expect from men. I just think you have to tone down some expectations.
You don't know him from a hole in the wall or these other men , so you can't presume to know what they are doing at home or what is occupying their time when they are not online. Not everyone's life revolves around online dating. Yeah, you shouldn't tolerate bad treatment or ignore red flags, but these are virtual strangers we're talking about here. Not every email needs to be answered in microseconds. I suspect some of these men may be waiting to schedule a date because they have tentative plans with someone else either another date or a friend or family member and need to hear from them before they tell you what time they are free to meet you.
First of all, he said 'sooo, you remembered me, I thought you had forgotten about me'. That got to me, as you understand and I told him that I could say the same, especially since I was the one who texted him after the date.
I said you didn't even send me a happy new year text, mister he said he was all alone and noone called him to wish happy new year and it just got him down. Then he said he was scared to call me or message me because he was afraid of rejection. I was shocked. Apparently, he thought I wasn't interested in him. I was like what? He said because I 'left the car in a hurry'. I said then why did I message you after the date? He said I thought you were just being polite. But, I said, I thought we had a good time during the date, we talked about so many things, wasn't it obvious I wanted to get to know you better?
He said I thought you were just friendly and I didn't get any other vibes from you. At that point I told him that of course he got no other vibes because it was the first time I saw him and that's how I behave with men I meet for the first time and that, for me, to show actual romantic interest in someone, I have to date them for a while first.
Anyway, then he asked me what I'm doing tomorrow, I said I'm meeting my best friend for coffee and he asked if we could go for a drink afterwards so, he's going to come to the cafe and pick me up and we're having that drink.
Oh, he also said that now that he knows I want to see him again, he'll be different. I said in what way? He said, I'll be calling you and stuff Batya, thanks for the push. I could never imagine that someone is that shy and that scared of rejection btw, this doesn't sit well with me regarding a future partner but, oh well, we could end up being good friends.
MissM I completely agree with your reasoning about cutting off lukewarm people. However, I think your approach is very likely throwing out decent guys who simply have a less intense communication level when first meeting someone. Rather than deleting the slow guys after a week or just a few days, why not keep them on your friends list for 30 days, and then delete if they haven't initiated? It could cut down on some negative reactions and possibly keep a few decent guys in the loop.
Peoples' "online status" could very well mean they left the computer on while sleeping, or left the app running on their phone while at work. You're very likely making a lot of assumptions that aren't true, and it may make you appear a bit stalkerish. But it's your call.
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By Sithren Started 22 hours ago. Most definitely not. He's one of the few guys who said he wants to get to know a woman and he's in no hurry to sleep with someone just to say he's had sex. I met a TON of duds I think this is the eternal paradox and risk of a public journal - especially one designated as entertainment. Archived This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. Meditation should never be sidelined.By MikeSunday at AM. OLD is different though and most guys on enotalone online dating journal forum and others I am on say. My bf is my complete opposite Keep us posted By GordonFreeman Started Monday at AM. Is he a bit TOO shy or what? By reinventmyselfJanuary 6, in Journals.